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The end of 2023 is in sight, and if you’re anything like me, it might be making your head spin. Where did the year go? While this year has been filled with all ends of the spectrum on the global scale, you might be feeling this in your personal life too. As we scoot on in to close out the only 2023 there will ever be, how do you feel about where you’re personally at right now?
As I was sitting in my quiet time one morning not long ago, I wrote something in the spring of this year that I thought was important to share with you right now. When I write, I write from where I am in life, and I also know that what I’m going through tends to be a theme for others too, so I share.
I didn’t then, because I felt very raw about it all, but I want to now.
As always, take what resonates, leave the rest.
There are things in your life that must go. They cannot come with you into this new chapter of your life, or new story completely. They’ve run their course, and refusing to loosen your grip on them is now polluting your environment. Letting go is scary. Being in the mystery of the in-between can shake you to your core. This is what it is to be human. We love control. We love to know what’s coming so we can prepare.
Instead….
Surrender.
Trust.
Surrender isn’t about giving up. It’s about trusting the process and where it’s taking you, even when you feel like you’re drowning. Surrender can feel like allowing your body to float on top of the rushing water rather than using all of your energy to fight again the current. To trust that you’re not only being held, but being carried by forces so much greater than you can imagine, requires so much courage.
Once you have the new experience, your standards will automatically be raised. Welcome the new, upgraded version of your life to enter your field.
Is there room?
New energy can’t exist in your life if it is filled with black, suffocating smoke. It’ll get engulfed immediately. Open the doors and windows, let what’s no longer for you go. It taught you far more about yourself than you can ever imagine. You’ve grown, you’ve changed, you’ve become more of an ally to yourself.
You’ve met your soul in its dark spaces, in the shadows that no one else sees. This is where you’ve had your darkest moments of this experience. Where you bled, you cried, parts of you may have even died.
This is what it is to be human.
We feel. We’re affected. We’re often forever changed. These are the wounds that we might carry with us for the rest of our lives, with something poking at them every now and then to remind us that yes, they’re still there and still in need of our love and attention. That’s the inner child and the inner teenager in us all. Each carries a different story that is unique to you, your circumstances, your upbringing, your entry into the world.
It’s your unique blueprint.
It’s also your unique gift and power. When we become the head of our healing team, we become more aware of our triggers, our responses, our reactions. Healing doesn’t always mean all is gone, forgotten or to never be contended with again. Healing often means you’re quicker to be aware of what’s actually happening. The trigger, the response, the reaction, the feeling sense in your body.
From here, time after time, we get better at rushing to our own aid with a healing balm. This balm can be being in nature, it can be breath, it can be feeling the ground beneath us, it can be putting our own hands on our bodies for comfort.
Too often we look to the others for help here. It’s when we tend to abandon ourselves and give our power away. It’s important to know that in the moments of pattern, you’re the medicine you need, and everyone else is just additional support. We need to have our own backs. We need to meet our own needs first. We need to self-generate, and we can.
We’re human afterall.
Your presence with yourself in stillness teaches this trust. When we constantly betray ourselves for others, the trust we have with ourselves is often broken and we have to repair it. Luckily for us, this process can be easier than it seems because we’re in control of how we show up.
Trust is hard to repair with others because we have no control or say on how they choose to show up.
But with ourselves… it’s a whole different story.
Next time you find yourself contending with heavy emotions, try closing your eyes and placing your hands on your heart. Ask yourself what you need right in that moment.
Listen, then act.
You may hear a whisper of water. Drink a glass of water. Go find water somewhere – a pond, a lake, a stream, your bathroom. Put your hands and feet in if you can. Open your ears and listen to the sounds of the water. Watch it. Breathe it in. Use all of your senses to be in the present moment.
You may hear a whisper of needing emotional safety. Find nature. Take your shoes off and get your feet on the grass. Get your hands in the dirt. Kneel by a tree. Smell flowers. Feel the safety of the Earth beneath you. Use all of your senses to be in the present moment.
In these moments of emotional instability, trust you know what to do. All the other tools are added support, and you need to be at the core of everything for yourself. It’s in this space we learn how to belong to ourselves. We learn how to trust ourselves. We learn how to transform and heal over the course of time.
In relationship with ourselves we create stillness to find peace. To think. To hear the whispers of our souls guiding us along our paths. We become present in real life as it unfolds before our eyes.
The journey home to yourself is so worth taking. One step at a time.
Breathe.
Close your eyes.
What do you need right now?
